Making Friends as an Adult

7:31 AM

Being an adult is booooring.

Paying bills. Cooking. Cleaning. Ugh. I'd rather play Candy Crush.

I'm even bored with this hair thing. There's no way I know enough hairstyles, and I'm already throwing it up in a lazy bun constantly. Which sucks since my hair seems better when I leave it down - not breaking as much.

The rain is really getting me down. I'm dying to start learning how to skateboard. I want to be:


Carving the Mountains from Juan Rayos on Vimeo.

sigh. I don't know if I'll ever be that comfortable on a skateboard. Doesn't it look epic?

It reminds me of playing roller derby. Awesome girls. Scrapes and bruises. I miss being surrounded by a team of amazing women. Although, I suspect a longboarder is a little more relaxed than a derby girl. People don't realize that most derby teams are self run. 40hr/wk job + three to four 2hr practices. You do everything from organizing the bouts to promotion all while paying for the opportunity. When you skate, derby is your life. Derby is your friend. You don't have time for anything / anyone else. Still... I miss it.

Girl friends. I've been thinking a lot about them lately. I'm not particularly good at friends. Bit anti-social. Ton terrible at keeping in touch. It's never bothered me much. Often it's preferable to the drama friendships can bring.


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It's a lot harder to find friends as an adult. Without school or extracurriculars to force people together or a system to unite against, where do you find friends? Hell, how do you make deep friendships? Half the time you're stuck at that stuffy job just waiting for the day's end when you can run off to co-ed bar volleyball.

In the past *cough* years since college, I've found maybe 2 awesome people I'd like to be my BFF. But in that same timeframe, I've moved across the country twice, lived in four different states, six different cities, and changed jobs four times. The amazing people you meet are busy working long hours and have legit lives. How do you get close to someone you can't spend a lot of time with?

My incredible boyfriend is my best friend. I love him to death, but we need more than just each other. I need someone to be stupid crazy with. Someone to giggle for hour over nothing. Some to share references. He just doesn't appreciate good tv like Supernatural or Buffy, and I can't stand South Park.

Think I need to create a gang. There are no rules, no requirements beyond have fun and don't suck.

We'll have secret handshakes,


go out for drinks and laugh stupidly for hours,




take awesome pics to Instagram,

37 Impossibly Fun Best Friend Photography Ideas by Buzzfeed
and basically just be awesome together.


We'll be a shoulder to cry on - so long as you don't need it 24/7. When we hangout, it'll be kickass, but there won't be hurt feelings if you can't get together often or if you're shit at keeping in touch. You just have to be awesome when we see you.

Not sure to invite to this gang. I bet Amy Poehler & Tina Fey could come up with some cool gang signs. Dominic Monaghan & Billy Boyd would make sure everyone is having fun. Jennifer Lawrence would get us up to all sorts of shenanigans. And Jensen, Jared, & Misha would make sure all our pics are significantly weird and awesome.

Now where do I find these peeps? Is there some adult friend dating site I need to join?

Do you have a best friend that isn't your significant other? Who are your dream BFFs?

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